The Art of Forgiveness
We recently came together for a Full Moon in Aquarius Women & Men's Forgiveness Gathering. The circle began with heart songs led by Leo then flowed into the question,
"what does forgiveness mean for you?" The answers varied from freedom, release, love, openness, and more. As you read this blog I invite you to ponder the same question.
Our brother Marcus led a deep 9 layer meditation. We ventured into forgiving our ancestors, great grandparents, grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, friends, past lovers, co-workers, and ourselves. Then made a list of all the persons in each category. The women were instructed to pick a man on their list that they had the strongest negative reaction. The men did the same but with a woman.
The big take away I had was, those that had cause me suffering did not do it out malice but rather how they were raised or out of fear. I felt a huge sense of relief, as if
I was a bridge for my ancestors to release what they weren't able to do.
This exercise also reminded me of generational trauma. The memories we may not be aware of but hold inside of our DNA. When we do forgiveness work we not only free up energy within ourselves but also release what our ancestors could not or weren't able too. The only way we can transmute this trauma is to accept and acknowledge that it is there.
A practice that many know is the Hoʻoponopono. It's a series of phrases that originates from Hawaii. The phrases are:
I'm so sorry
Please forgive me
I love you
Orin offered a song of the Hoʻoponopono. I invite you to play with repeating them out loud or play with singing, perhaps begin with forgiving yourself. Explore the melodies that resonate to you.
The men and women separated and we journeyed further into forgiveness. Both groups had the opportunity to write out all the suffering the person that caused us a strong negative reaction in detail. Then women were guided by Sophia and the men were guided by Marcus reinvent this person and our relationship with them. Giving us the opportunity to fully forgive them for all the pain they caused and receive what we may have been yearning from them for many years.
The importance of our words was emphasized. Many of speak as though our words hold no power. We make empty promises, talk against ourselves and to others.
Our word is a vehicle for manifestation. To quote the Bible:
"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." John 1:1
"How can a young person stay on the path of purity?
By living according to your word" Psalm 119:9
We gave our word that we would honor the holiness of our word. Later we did this by the men and women coming together at a sacred fire and burning the words of suffering so we could embody our reinvented relationships and intention around what we had written.
The heart medicine of Cacao was facilitated by Ita from Cacao Magic after the fire.
Mark & Sherrie shared their deeply healing Kirtan music with ancient mantras infused with Cacao. Making for a sweetly potent journey back to ancient vibrations calling and receiving the presence of the ancients ones.
Together we created a masterpiece of forgiveness. When we acknowledge, and accept our traumas we gain our power. When we release suffering we gain the ability to heal ourselves and collective. This opens us up to receive clearer guidance, inspiration, energy, and deeper levels of love. May we all be impeccable with our word, fully release what no longer serves, and embody the joy and divinity that we are.